Hello, everyone. I and my husband had married five years ago. I was at the age of 30's that time and I'm quite fat. It was really hard to get pregnant. After two years. we are surprised by the news that I become pregnant. However, after some time, I felt something very painful in my abdomen. We went to a doctor for check up. There, we found out that I had an ectopic pregnancy. The most painful truth we face now is the very low chance of getting pregnant again. I almost lose hope.
Hi, Bimk. My sister experienced the same story with you. The doctor tells her too that getting pregnant will be very hard but she really needs to take the surgery because if she does not, it will really take her life.
I can really see the pain with your sister. I had experienced ectopic tube removal. We are now having a hard time with my husband. We go to counseling seminars for a couple just to cope up with this problem especially me. I think I have no essence of being a woman without a child. I don't know what will be the effect of this traumatic experience in my life.
How about surrogacy? I think that's a good option that you are going to do. You can still have a child that you longs in your life. Some celebrities do that one.
Can you give me an idea about that RES? Do you have friends who took surrogacy method? How much it might cost?
You can choose from the two.Traditional surrogacy and gestational surrogacy. For traditional surrogacy, a surrogate mother is artificially inseminated, either by the intended father and carries the baby to term. The baby is related to the surrogate mother and the father or the sperm donor. For your case, You can have gestational surrogacy. This procedure needs your egg and your husband's sperm to be fertilized in the laboratory and implant it on the surrogate mother. You can choose this one because it is still your own child.
Oh really? By the way I researched some info about it. It's very expensive. I don't know if we can afford for that process. I already talked with my husband about it. He said 'it sounds good'. But he still cheers me up to hold that little chance that one day we will be given a child. He prefers the natural means.
You can go to the nearest hospital in your place and seek for a guidance about it. The doctors can give you the best option what to do. Anyway, if you do not have enough money for it, how about adoption? You can adopt a baby while waiting for you to get pregnant because you still hold for that little chance. Through adopting, you will still sense the essence of being a mother. It is a nice relief from your stress.
Yeah it is a nice suggestion res. I will try to think about it. By the way, what baby is nice to adopt? Girl or boy? I don't have any idea. But I think it is nice to have a girl, isn't it? I will still consider the surrogacy because it is really nice that you hold your real baby. Seeing your husband counts the traits your baby earned from the both of you. Oh! When would I experience that?
Good luck to you Bimk and your husband. Do not stop until you find the answers to your problem. Have a strong marriage despite this. I know there are already answers to it ahead of you. You will just to find it.
Hello BIMK and sister, I for sure can understand the emotions and the experience that you both are undergoing now. I am always with you in your sorrow. But why perturb when there are ways and means of getting pregnant again? This is a disturbing time and some are frantic to try to become pregnant again following an ectopic pregnancy. On the other hand, a few others are scared and think they require more time to psychologically as well as bodily recover. Everybody grieves in a different way and there is no correct or incorrect choice when preferring to linger or try once more speedily for another baby. Statistically, the options for a successful future pregnancy are excellent. Almost 85% of women are healthily expectant within a span of 18 months following an ectopic pregnancy. As suggested by RES here about surrogacy, you can also try for it. But in case you feel that you need to experience all the pregnancy joys and issues and go through delivery pain then forget surrogacy. You can go for in vitro fertilization. The best clinic for this is Biotexcom in Kiev, Ukraine. There the specialists put 1 or 2 embryos into the center of the uterine cavity with a very small risk for ectopic. You will feel at home when you are consulting the specialists there. Just give it a try.
I'm sorry to read what happened to you. Ectopic pregnancies require surgery to remove the baby or can cause death of the mother. It must be awful to have to go through something like that. I hope you are feeling better now. Have you given any diagnosis of why pregnancy? Or what may be causing your infertility? I am aware that overweight does not help much in these cases. I recommend that you keep a healthy snack and try to lose weight. With good nutrition and a healthy lifestyle, it is easier to conceive. I had to lose weight for my IVF treatments. Had high sugar and cholesterol levels. I love to eat, it was hard to lose weight, but it was worth it. In Kiev, Ukraine, there is a clinic called BioTex. There I had my IVF treatment. I have nothing bad to say about them, the experience was wonderful. The prices are affordable and the attention is very good. They even picked us up from the airport upon arrival. I recommend it extensively. There they can give you hope for your case. a greeting Xx
THere is always a way out dear. I am sorry that you feel the opposite. Low chances doesn't mean impossible tho... You can still have a baby! I had very low chances too. Now tho, far from home, here in Ukraine my IVF is going fine. You can have the same fate. Do not give up my friend. Giving up is the only thing that can stop you! God bless you dear.
