What all do we need to get going with surrogacy process? I have a deformed uterus which leads me to 5 MCs. I feel I drained myself in vain and I feel so depressed for losing each of my babies. Shouldn't have kept conceiving like that! :'( I will never get over those losses. I just saw a ray of hope in surrogacy. It may be worth everything this time.
Hello to you Julia! How are you doing dear? I hope that you are just fine... I really hope that you'll find the strength to move on eventually! It is vital for you that you accept the truth... And the truth is that you are a great person. You had MCs because you were trying to get happy. You wanted to bring angels to this world. You have done nothing wrong and the past shouldn't haunt you. Now the surrogacy isnt that complex. At least not as much as people make it. You first need a surrogate mother. That can be done via a an agency or directly with a surrogate mother! Once you do that youll need to feel some papers and stuff. Now my advise would be that you find a clinic. Usually they are more pricey but you'll have it easier. Most of the paper work will be done by them, and they'll giud you every step of the way. So to summarize just find a clinic. A quick google search will help you. God bless you deary, my prayers are with you.
Surrogacy is worth every bit of it. The process is quite easy. Especially if you get a clinic that already has a good surrogate motherhood program. Well rooted programs already have surrogates picked out. All you need is sign a few documents with the surrogate for legal purposes. The clinic will then take it from there. One such clinic is BioTexCom in Kiev. I am in for IVF but I also like the surrogacy program they have. You should see how beautiful the ladies they have picked out are! Plus they do thorough screening of their medical histories before accepting them. So you are assured of no genetic illnesses. I witnessed HPs leaving with their new born daughter earlier this week. It was the most beautiful scene I have seen in ages. They seemed ecstatic. I hope you find a good one soon
Hello honey. I am so sorry to hear about your losses. I can't even begin to imagine going through so many MCs. I can understand how you are feeling. I know how hard it would be to get over each of those. Despite that, my dear, you need to stay strong. You can't stay sad forever. Thinking about surrogacy is a good idea. I think it might just what you need. Since you will be getting someone else to carry your baby, the shape of your uterus won't matter. Also, since you are able to ovulate properly, therefore you don't need an egg donor. So, your child will be completely yours. In terms of genes and biology. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
Hello Julia. My dear, I am so sad hearing about what you have been through. I know the sadness I'm feeling is nothing compared to your pain. I just hope you find some way to heal yourself mentally and physically. All these MCs must have left a scar on you emotionally. I wish you all the strength. I hope surrogacy works out better for you. I have heard a lot of praise about surrogacy. I think that it will be the right choice for you. I suggest you go for it. Do your research. Ask people who have experience with it. Hopefully, things will go right for you this time. My prayers are with you. Good luck!
Hi there. It must have been so hard for you. I am sorry to hear you had such poor luck. I hope your luck turns around. 6th time's the charm, right? Now, moving on to surrogacy. I have heard about this wonderful clinic. I have no personal experience with it, I'm afraid. Despite that, I have heard the firsthand account of a friend. She was super pleased with the experience. She too was unable to conceive. She went to the clinic. They guided her through the process. She said she was most impressed with the level of hospitality of the clinic. Let me know if you want more details.
Hello, there honey. I understand your situation all too well. I was fighting a battle against infertility myself. Two years ago I was victorious. The solution for me was surrogacy. That is why I believe it can work out for you too. So, please do give it a try. I hope it is as good for you as it was for me. I had a hysterectomy done as a teenager. Later when I got married I wanted children. That was next to impossible due to the hysterectomy. So, that is why I went for surrogacy. The clinic guided me through the entire process. They arranged the surrogate mother and the egg donor. I would recommend the clinic any day of the week.
Hello, Julia. It’s a great idea to go for the surrogacy. It already helped a lot of women to become parents. I’m sure you will become one of them. My baby was also born by the surrogate. I think it is absolutely safe and natural way of getting a baby. My mother was surprised to hear that an outside woman would carry my baby. She recommended me to adopt. But I’m very glad that I didn’t listen to her. Now I’m a happy mom of my biological baby. My first husband broke up with me because of my infertility. But I got married again. My second husband is an amazing person. He helped me to become stronger. We found the way to become parents. I will always appreciate him for his help. To start I recommend you to find the reproduction center. There’s no need for you to look for the surrogate on your own. Let professionals do it for you. The doctors will choose the most appropriate surrogate for you. You will save your money and your time. It takes a couple of months to finish all the examinations and to find the surrogate. After that the embryo will be transferred. And you will have to wait again. For example, we received a call in 3 weeks. Our coordinator told us that the surrogate is pregnant. This is how our baby was born. I just hope that my story would help you to understand what to do. Don’t waste your time and start changing your life. I wish you to become parents asap, dear. Surrogacy will help you.
Sometimes life can be very harsh. However, a single ray of hope is a very powerful thing. Just because if something is not going your way or giving desired results it doesn't mean it will never happen, so don't be too harsh on yourself. Face your problems with head up high!! Because urge of being a mother can never be satisfied. No happiness in the world can replace the happiness of holding your child for the first time. You have taken a right decision to go for surrogacy. You need to do an initial consultation via email. Then you have to provide documents to prove your infertility, and your consent that you are ready for stimulation. Husbands need to give their sperm, and after an initial payment, you are given medicines. As soon as the surrogate is found,the treatments start. If you are seriously considering surrogacy then don't waste your time on other treatments. Telling you out of my own experience, you won't be disappointed.
Julia, have you consulted the fertility specialist? You have to figure out if there’s a chance for you to give birth. It’s a good sign that you can get pregnant. It means that your eggs are fine. In case if you can’t give birth, you can easily use the help of the surrogate mother. Girls above told you a lot about this service. I join all the comments. My son was also born by the surrogate. I didn’t want to adopt that’s why we’ve chosen the surrogacy. I was a little bit scared. But it was like the last ray of hope for me. I dreamed to become a mother and I was fighting for this wish. Unfortunately, a lot of women just give up. Others agree to adopt. But not every couple is allowed to adopt. Surrogacy is available to everyone who has money. It’s not a secret that this service is pricy enough. But you can always choose some cheaper variants. For example choose one of European medical centers. Prices there are more affordable. Also, you will be allowed to divide the price into several payments. It really helps. All medical centers have a big database of the surrogates. You can be sure that they will choose the most appropriate one for you. So, there’s no need for you to look for the surrogate on your own. In a couple of months after the pregnancy beginning you will be allowed to visit the surrogate. I was scared to see her for the first time. But then we became good friends. I had to be polite. She was pregnant with our baby. You know, it wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be.
Hi Julia Ronnie, I really feel bad to know about your 5 miscarriages. I know it is a huge loss that cannot be compensated with words. To lose five babies is definitely a game of strength and courageousness. I wish it would not the case with you. I wish you had healthy babies. I know how hard it is to lose your babies. I was a cancer patient until last year. I managed to win the battle against cancer. I wanted to have my own babies but cancer was not letting me to do so. My ovaries were removed. My uterus was affected. I felt like my life has no purpose now. I got to know about the surrogacy and I opt for it. Honestly, it was a wonderful experience. The first step is to contact the clinic and make an appointment with them. They will be taking few of yours and your husband’s tests. After that, surrogate mother and donor eggs will be matched. Then the procedure will proceed further and you will be able to become a mother soon.
Hi Julia, I hope you are feeling better now. I can understand that it is a huge loss that you have a beard in form of miscarriages. Miscarriages break you both mentally and emotionally. The life is not ended there. You have your family with you. You have to be strong for your family. You need to take care of yourself as miscarriages affect you physically too. You need to take healthy diet. The surrogacy process is not complicated at all. You are required to contact the clinic, send them your medical history. You are required to provide them with the documentation that you cannot carry a baby. After that, you need to visit the clinic. You have will to take few tests and initial consultation. Along with your test, the sperms of your husband will also be examined. Then you have to go through the stimulation process. If stimulation process does not work in your case, you have to choose surrogate mothers and donor eggs if required.
Hello Julia, Hope you are doing well and coping with your problems with strong determination. I can feel that things are not easy on your side. A miscarriage is not easy to handle. It's traumatic not only physically but emotionally also. But time is a great healer. It's great that now the option of surrogacy is there for women who want to conceive but due to some unforeseen reasons aren't able to do it. Now there is no need to live your life in distress and grief. Because now a solution is there. And clinics like in Ukraine Kiev are there to make it easier and memorable for you. Loads of prayers for you and your treatment.
Normally! All you need is to prove your infertility to get into a surrogacy process. Well, besides that I really am sorry for your losses. I know you're really in a painful situation now. I have felt that depression and anxiety. Just don't burden yourself now. Once you have chosen surrogacy. It really is an amazing process; which will help you out. I myself traveled from Canada to Europe for it. It was pretty expensive for me. I was also afraid of the risk but, after getting my son from it. I think everything was worth it. I also would recommend and endorse your decision to try it.
"Hi, Julia, That is so sad... I'm sorry to hear you had to go through that all. One cannot fathom the grief involved. Starting points to consider when going for surrogacy will be the registration I think. Once you've registered as Intended Parent, you will receive a welcome email and will be introduced to a specific coordinator who will provide you all the necessary information about surrogacy process. Mostly, these consultations are charged. I happen to know of a clinic in Ukraine that offers a free consultation. If you want me to, I can dig out the details. I'd agree with others here that surrogacy is worth it. What's more there to judge its worth than knowing that in the end, you will drive home with your baby in your hands. I would also recommend that you make a great center selection. Considering the process is a bit new in the market, getting in touch with the renowned specialists makes it even more comforting. I hope that you forget about your loss, easier said than done, I know, but we have to get over it. Sooner the better, that's what I have experienced in life. Lots of prayers and success wishes from my side."
Hi Julia. Five miscarriages is a loss that is not imaginable. I can just try to support you and give hope as I cannot feel the pain that you have gone through. Seriously, I thought a lot about you and I concluded that you didn’t lose hope and kept trying despite all the losses and failures you faced. Your post is so influential for every infertile woman here. You are a woman with a positive vibe as you have accepted your fate and you are ready to go for surrogacy. I am so happy for you that you have come out of your difficult situation. The initial steps to start the surrogacy process are really very easy. You just have to mail all your documents to the clinic including the report that is signed by your doctor and it proves that you cannot become a mother. There will be a few tests required before the clinic calls you. Those tests can be taken by yourself or the clinic will take it when you visit them. They will take a look at your documents and then they will call you through email. Rest of the procedure will be guided by the clinical staff after you arrive there. This is how you will start this procedure. Rest of the procedure will under the care of the clinic as they will tell you what to do next. SO I think you should start collecting your documents. Scan the documents and send them as soon as possible so that the clinic can also call you in a short time span.
