Hello ladies! I'm 35 years old. I faced the problem of infertility. I want to share my story with you and ask for help, for advice, for anything, which can help me to solve my problem. This is my last chance, cry from my heart. I want to be happy, want to give happiness to my husband. We have always been dreaming about children. We have been together for 12 years already, and all this time we've been trying to conceive a baby. 3 years ago we made it and we were over the moon. We thought that finally our prayers were heard. But our happiness lasted not for long. My stomach hurt, aching pain felt in the thigh, plus nausea and dizziness. The doctor told me that all these are normal for pregnant woman and I have no reasons to worry about. Later, the pain became unbearable, and it turned out that I had suffered from internal bleeding, which doctors have not diagnosed in time. So on the seventh month of pregnancy placental abruption occurred. Doctors had to remove the fetus along with the uterus. This loss knocked down both of us. We yearned for a long time. We are still not really recovered from our loss. But we decided not to stop. We want to have children and happy family very much. We are thinking to try surrogacy, but it is forbidden in our country. But my husband and I are very serious about it, this is our last chance! I really beg you to suggest, maybe someone faced and knows, in which countries surrogacy is allowed, which clinics are better to address. I will be very grateful for any information!
Hi, So sorry for your loss. This is so painful. All is not lost though. You can still be a mother through surrogacy. You have mentioned that it is illegal in your country. That should not worry you. Travel to a country where surrogacy is legal, like Ukraine. I am very sure that soon you will have your smile back
Hi dear! Thank you so much for responding to my thread! I'm so glad to see someone else's comment here. I appreciate your support. I really need to talk to someone now. I feel like I'm trapped and lost. This is really hard to keep going after our loss. It seems to me like I need to avoid everyone. Because everyone have kids and everyone is talking about them. And the worst thing is they asking me why I don't have children. This is really exhausting. When I think that I might never have children I get panic attack. It scares me to death! I can't imagine life being childless not by choice. I'm scared to believe that maybe I won't ever have children. And I think this is the main problem which doesn't let me to leave and enjoy life. Thinking about surrogacy gives me hope. It's like a fresh gulp of the air. Though I'm scared to believe that it will work for us 100%, but I feel alive for the first time in a really long time.
It's been almost a week since I made my post. I was hoping to see more replies. Anyway I still want to update. I hope maybe later someone will share their thoughts or experience with me. My search is on a break now. The reason of it is my depressed condition. A couple of days ago I went to hang out with my friends. I decided to give myself a break from my thoughts about our loss, my infertility and other stuff we're facing now. So I met with a couple of my friends and we went to a restaurant. At first everything was perfect. We shared some news, remembered our youth. We were laughing and talking. In one word we we're doing everything that usually old friends do when they meet after a long break. But then they started a discussion which I was afraid of the most. They started to talk about their kids. I was just sitting there, drinking my juice in silence. I really didn't know what to say. Actually I had nothing to say. I don't have kids and unfortunately I’d never experienced motherhood. After they noticed that my mood changed they were looking at me with such a pity. And it broke my heart. I told them I feel sick and I went home. When I drove to my house I was sitting in my car crying for more than an hour. I knew they will rise this topic and actually there were such situations before. But I promised myself I will be strong this time and I won't let infertility to prevent me enjoy this evening. Unfortunately I didn't fulfill my promise. And the next day my friends were calling and texting me to ask how I feel. I'm sure they know the actual reason why I left. I know they want to support me and they didn't mean to hurt my feelings. But it sucks when they feel sorry for me. I hate this feeling. I dream to start my journey. More than anything else I want to have a baby. I want to start living and never ever face situations when infertility just ruins everything. I'm really sorry for this long and maybe boring post. I hope there is someone who knows what I'm talking about. I would really love to talk to you.
Howdy dear friend! I am really sorry for you. Your story is truly heartbreaking no matter how you look at it. The toughest people get the toughest tests. That's just the way the world is dear. Keep your head up though... Had anybody been in your position they'd given up long ago. The fact alone that you are trying this hard means that you'll achieve success. The problem your facing now is a minor one. Believe me when i say that! I have seen many couples reach this step. Once they're here, they always succeed. All you need is a flight to Ukraine. As long as your country doesnt allow surrogacy than Ukraine is the destination for you. There are many clinics there and you'll probably find the one you need. I can get more exact and tell you that i have found a clinic for myself there. If you want to check biotexcom. Thats my clinic there. I really hooe you found this helpful.
Hello. Personally I have chosen the reproduction center in Ukraine. Prices there are pretty affordable. Surrogacy is legal there. And now I know that doctors there are very qualified. Our son was born there and I don’t regret. We liked the service and in common the medical center looked very modern. It was called BioTexCom. They offer a huge database of surrogates and donors. I think you should contact them. They will answer all of your questions. Your doctor seems to be not a good professional. He had to notice an internal bleeding. They had to save your baby. Doctors are so irresponsible nowadays. It’s a great pity. Doctors have to save our lives, not to destroy them. I have no words to explain how mad I am. I am very happy that you didn’t give up. Surrogacy is the best solution for you. You made the right choice. As for me it is very important to have a biological baby. I am not saying that adoption is a bad idea. I just don’t want to adopt. This is only my opinion. You choose your own way. Surrogacy gives us a chance to see how our baby is born. Isn’t it amazing? Every woman dreams to see her baby as a newborn. I was extremely happy to hold our son for the first time. He was so tiny and nice smelling. You will understand what I mean when you touch your baby.
Okay BiotexCom sounds amazing! I don't know why but this name keeps popping up all over forums. So many people seem to be turning to this clinic. I assume it is due to it being very good. Based also on your experience. I am glad that you made your dream come true. I will make mine too pretty soon. Well the doctors did a little f*** up, but I don't blame them. I am pretty sure they did everything they could. It's not their fault, i am sure they did all they could. Anyhow there is no reason to look back and be frustrated. However I didn't have a misscariage! I never got pregnant to being with. It's jsut that had they could the sicnkess earlier I would have been able to concieve. Oh well, there is nothing to do about it now. I wish you happiness dear. May god bless you!
Dear, Ukraine is one of the best places to go for surrogacy programmes! There are numerous clinics that would offer you such programmes at affordable prices! There, the laws are quite flexible for the foreigners as well and Surrogacy is legal too! I agree with @prettywmn, the clinic is really good! Although I underwent the DE procedure there, I researched about the surrogacy programmes too and the result was great! I got to know that they offer such programmes at reasonable prices and so many people were opting for it there and then! They chose the best surrogate mothers of young ages and have there all-inclusive programmes for them! You should really look into it! Good luck x
Your story is awful and I’m sorry you had to go through this. I just hope that you are strong enough to keep trying. I faced infertility a couple of years ago. My husband didn’t want to deal with this problem that’s why we divorced. After a long depression and suicide thoughts I started visiting the psychologist. In a couple of months I met my second husband. He told me about surrogacy and we decided to try it out. It took almost one year to become parents. But it is much faster than adoption process. Surrogacy is also illegal in our country that’s why we had to go to Europe. They offered us different packages at affordable prices. They really do everything possible to help infertile couples. The representative of the clinic met us at the airport. The next day we met our doctor. I was so excited. I didn’t know if surrogacy would work in our case. Thank God everything was fine. After all the necessary tests the embryo was transferred. In a couple of weeks we received the notification that our surrogate was pregnant. In a couple of months we were allowed to visit her. My husband was following me everywhere. We were visiting the surrogate and spending a lot of time together. We wanted to buy all pretty things for our baby. He was so sweet. He hasn’t changed since then. He is an amazing father now. He spends a lot of time with our baby. I don’t even ask him to do something. He knows that he should help me and he does it. So, in your situation surrogacy is a great solution. I wish you good luck.
My husband and me are going through surrogacy at the moment. We spent many years ttc but had no success. That’s why we have chosen the surrogacy. We looked through hundreds of surrogacy programs. They all look very similar. We wanted to be sure that we will get our baby. To say truth, prices for surrogacy are pretty high. We had to save for a long time to enter the program. That’s why we wanted to be sure that we would succeed this time. We visited a lot of reproduction centers around the world. Surrogacy is illegal in our country. That’s why we have chosen the clinic in Europe. It is called BioTexCom and it is located in Kiev. We were scared because we have never been to this country before. We everything was fine. The representatives of the clinic met us at the airport. They brought us to our apartment. It looked very modern. The next day we met our doctor and signed an agreement. We have chosen the VIP package. It guaranteed that we would have a baby. The package included a multiple quantity of embryo transfers. In 5 weeks the embryo was transferred. Everything has happened pretty fast. We found out that our surrogate got pregnant in 3 weeks. So, our baby will be born in a month. We are extremely worried, you know. Our doctor promised that that will show us how to take care of the newborn. Anyway, we are visiting special lessons now. We want to be sure that we will become good parents. Hope my story would help you to make a right choice.
We lost our baby a couple of months ago. I know what you are talking about. It is awful. There's nothing worst than loosing kids. How could your doctor miss your internal bleeding??? I don't believe it. Such doctors shouldn't be allowed to work in hospitals. Let me support you, dear. I'm sure everything will be fine. My husband and me are trying to be over our MC. But it is very hard. We are looking for the way to become parents. We are thinking of surrogacy, actually. I think it can be a good option for you too. Anyway, I wish you good luck!
Hello Babylonely. I feel sorry for reading your post. I can understand how a mother feels after MC. I can understand your feelings too as you already conceived too late. The icing on the cake was that you lost your child. Please don’t lose hope. There is always a solution to a problem. I hope you find a way out very soon. Yes, surrogacy is a good option is your case. You can use your eggs and your husband sperms and then through a surrogate mother, you can have your baby. There is a clinic in Ukraine who provides surrogacy procedures. I would suggest you to have a look at the website of that clinic. http://biotexcom.com/services Here is the link to the website of that clinic. I have read about the success stories of many people who got their procedure done from this clinic. I hope it works in your case too. Good luck.
Hi dear. I am so sorry to hear that. Dealing with the loss of a child is so hard. Especially, when you manage to conceive after so long. I hope you manage to come out stronger. Don't lose hope. Surrogacy is a good option. You mentioned that it is illegal in your country. May I ask where are you from? Regardless, I do know of a clinic. It's called BioTexCom. It's located in Ukraine. They offer surrogacy services. They are supposed to be quite good. I would suggest you check them out. Contact them and ask for details. I hope this is what you need. Here's the website: http://mother-surrogate.info/services/
Hi dear!!! Hope you are doing good and have decided by now, what you want to go for. Did you reseach about the clinics in Ukraine? I hope after knowing the experience of all of the ladies on this forum with them, you might have given a thought to it. I believe that it is one of the best places for fertility techniques. You will be surprised to see the results. And moreover, the treatment is cheap and thus easy to afford. Me and my husband faced many difficulties while finding the best clinic which would gaurantee results. It took us a long time to go for our clinic. We visited many clinics but were satisfied with the services of BiotexCom. The doctors and the staff is ver coperative and patient. They'll end in meeting all your requirements. I am sharing my experience with you as I faced many difficulties in deciding. You must give it a try . May be they turn out to be best fit for you guys as well, which I believe they will. Looking forward to know what you have decided. Good luck!!!
I agree with you dear because my friend had got the surrogacy from the BiotexCom in Ukraine and she was totally satisfied with services of this clinic. She also told that they give individual attention to every patient. With the help of their experienced, doctors and staff, my sister has a healthy and lovely baby.I think each woman who struggling for a long time with the problem of infertility, should go there at least once. Hope dream of having child comes true for each couple.
I'm so sorry we have to go through all this... Infertility is such a bitch. Though we are currently in our surrogacy program and our sm is pregnant, I'll never forget what we've gone through. We were TTC for 8 years. I had 3 MCs and unbearable pain hit my heart after each loss. I can't believe that we'll have a baby soon. I ask myself "Can that possibly be true? Or am I dreaming?" I still remember that feeling of emptiness and hopelessness when friends or colleagues were telling me they are pregnant. When everyone around were asking me why I DO NOT WANT to have kids. I want to say to all of you guys, don't give up and keep going! The only thing which matters is our desire to become parents!
Hello dear! I'm really sorry you have to go through such pain. I know that this is really hard to be strong in such situation. I had 6 miscarriages. I completely understand the reason why you chose such method to stop feeling the pain. We have been trying to conceive for 8 years. These years were a nightmare for us. I am very lucky I have supportive husband. But his and mine parents make the situation worse. They can't stop asking when we will give them grandchildren. They can't stop blaming me in inability to have children. They can't stop turning my life into a nightmare. In such situation it is very hard not to give up and stop trying. I've changed so many doctors, so many hospitals. I've tried literally everything to get pregnant and the most important to save the pregnancy. Unfortunately nothing worked for me. We wasted so much money and nerves and got nothing in result. After the pain we went through I'm actually surprised that we still have tiny bit of hope. We are thinking about the surrogacy option. This is our last chance and we want to use it. Dear I wish you all the best! I hope you will find answers to your questions. I wish you to find an option which will help you to become a mother!
I have been TTC for 2 years. I totally understand what you are going through. It's hard when many of your friends are bragging about their kids. It’s even harder when people announcing news like, "I'm pregnant and we weren't even trying!!" That happened to me last week. This is so frustrating when each and everyone around you get pregnant… Seems they conceive right away, from the first try. We’ve tried so many treatments, medications, herbs, etc. but nothing. And everyone around thinks it’s their mission to ask “why don’t you have any kids yet? what are you waiting for?” This is so hard. Anyway, it's very hard because you are grieving that child that you do not have. Grief is a complicated thing. It's totally normal to feel the way you do. I hope you and the rest of us get pregnant very soon! In the mean time we can concentrate on our relationship with God and our relationship with our DH. I try to remember every day how blessed I am, and that makes me feel better.
Hello dear! How are you doing now? Do you consider surrogacy? I want to tell you that I'm really sorry about your situation. I know that this time is very tough for you. I understand that this is hard to struggle with infertility. I just wanted to tell you to look at the situation from the other side. First of all you still have a great chance of having a baby. Second of all there are higher chances to carry a healthy baby because it will be a surrogate mother who will have the pregnancy and give birth. This's still hard because it's not you who will be carrying your baby. At least you will know that chances of carrying a healthy baby are much higher. I wish you to make a decision which will be the best for you. We are all here to support you. If you have a need to talk to someone just let us know.
